Blog: Riding the Waves of Grief

On grief, resilience, and healing

January 17, 2020

There are three things that we don’t learn until life delivers a blow:

1. Loss of the ones we love is inevitable, a sure thing, gonna happen sooner or later. Not having been reminded that nothing lasts forever, we are gob-smacked when our loved one dies.

2. Grief can be...

December 31, 2019

Another New Year’s Eve usually means forming a new set of intentions for the coming year, a chance to look ahead and plan for a better year, a chance for a new start. After the loss of a loved one, the New Year brings a more complicated challenge. For a person in grief...

December 18, 2019

Christmas pieces on the emotional side of this season often tip toward Christmas as a trigger for depression, or recommendations to go find someone who is suffering more heartache than you are and help them, which is fine advice, but right now, let’s do something diffe...

December 5, 2019

When hit by a major loss, many people feel cast off into an unfamiliar land. But it may help to know that under the surface, each of us already has a great deal of experience with bouncing back after loss. It started in childhood when we had to move away from friends a...

November 27, 2019

How grateful are you this Thanksgiving season? For those with a recent, or even a long-ago loss, gratitude may not be the first thing that comes to mind.

I often hear that Thanksgiving Day is everyone’s favorite: no gifts to worry about, no commercial hubbub, good comfo...

November 23, 2019

If you listen to conventional wisdom about grieving – don’t make any decisions in the first year, march through a series of painful stages before you can be trusted, grieve like everybody else or you’re doing it wrong, hurry it up – you’ll conclude that you are helples...

November 10, 2019

We can probably agree that grieving is a bewildering process. Instead of getting up in the morning and jumping into your old routine, on some days it can be tough to come up with a reason to get out of bed at all. And where would the energy, and the focus, come from to...

October 25, 2019

You know those times in life when you are in between your defining events – like for author Cheryl Strayed, a devastating loss, a soon-to-come successful book (Wild, the account of her trek on the Pacific Crest Trail at a fraught time in her life), the resulting fame....

August 19, 2019

Your friend calls to ask: How can I help you today? Or Let’s do something together todaywhat should it be? You may not love the questions, and the first answer in your head may be something touchy like Who says I need help? Or How do you know that I want to do somet...

July 19, 2019

In my counseling office, when a bereaved person came to talk, I would ask to hear about their loved one. The answers came in many forms –

“Well, he wasn’t perfect, that’s for sure, but he was perfect for me.”

“She was what you’d call a stickler – she wouldn’t sit down at...

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