Missing what you never had
Grief is all around, once we have a reason to start looking for it. Usually, that reason is a loss of our own, when we seek to know that we are not alone. For me, it is also my preoccupation with learning all I can about the various forms of loss and the various ways we respond. The losses of spouse, parent or child are thought to be our most acute, but there is more to grief than the expected, and its complications can confuse. We also grieve for losses of jobs, for friends
