October - 2018

Blog: Riding the Waves of Grief

On grief, resilience, and healing

What early parental loss means for your grieving

What do Eleanor Roosevelt, Barbra Steisand, and I have in common? It’s not celebrity (I’m out) or human rights icon status (no for me and Barbra) or even vocal prowess (not Eleanor and I, unfortunately). It’s that we all lost a father early on – Eleanor at nine (after losing her mother the year before), Barbra before she was two, and me at almost two. Losing a parent gives you experience that no one would wish for you, leaving you with certain issues that you didn’t get a cha

When grief actually begins: can we pre-grieve a coming loss?

Pamela Jane Bell just wanted to join a grief support group. With her husband in hospice care, she was losing more of him day by day. She needed people who would understand and show her the way forward. But she was denied entry to the group. The problem: He wasn’t dead yet. She tells her story in “Good Grief, but Not Good Enough” in The Wall Street Journal and reveals a common myth about grieving – that it begins when someone dies. In fact, grief begins far earlier than that.

A Morning Mourning Routine

A loss creates seismic shifts in a life. The structure that supports it falls in on itself, the rhythm of that life is disrupted, a gaping hole opens up underfoot. Things that were easy become difficult, even impossible – eating is no longer appealing, sleep is elusive, simple communicating is overwhelming. Never have the basic tasks of the day required so much effort. Every loss has its layers, and one of the most disruptive is the loss of the chance to begin the day with co

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Welcome to the Waves of Grief Blog

Nature does you some good as you grieve, and science can prove it

Moving Out, Moving On, Holding On to What You Can

Grieving in Public: Open-door grieving

Looking Back and Looking Forward: Grieving in the pandemic year

Seeking solace in nature while we grieve: What to look for

Insights on Sleep and Grief: Some suggestions

The Pandemic Losses: An extra layer of grief

Grief Whiplash: From not enough time to say goodbye to way too much time to fill

Grieving in a pandemic: On time, isolation, and what we must do

We are built to grieve and survive, and even thrive, after loss

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Waves of Grief