The toughest question for a griever to answer: How are you doing?
Your friend calls to ask: How can I help you today? Or Let’s do something together today – what should it be? You may not love the questions, and the first answer in your head may be something touchy like Who says I need help? Or How do you know that I want to do something with you – or anyone – today? Or, even more crankily, I can’t even decide whether to take a shower and you want me to plan your day? You probably don’t say it out loud, because underneath your discomfort, y
