Blog: Riding the Waves of Grief

On grief, resilience, and healing

November 10, 2019

We can probably agree that grieving is a bewildering process. Instead of getting up in the morning and jumping into your old routine, on some days it can be tough to come up with a reason to get out of bed at all. And where would the energy, and the focus, come from to...

August 19, 2019

Your friend calls to ask: How can I help you today? Or Let’s do something together todaywhat should it be? You may not love the questions, and the first answer in your head may be something touchy like Who says I need help? Or How do you know that I want to do somet...

July 19, 2019

In my counseling office, when a bereaved person came to talk, I would ask to hear about their loved one. The answers came in many forms –

“Well, he wasn’t perfect, that’s for sure, but he was perfect for me.”

“She was what you’d call a stickler – she wouldn’t sit down at...

June 6, 2019

Julianna still tears up when she thinks about her longtime dog Sadie. “I’m embarrassed. Shouldn’t I be over this by now?” she asks three months later. “It’s mainly when the kids ask about her – where did she go, why did you let her die, is the same thing going to happe...

May 23, 2019

In a time of grieving, we need all the help and comfort we can gather in. A phone call from the right person, a passage from a loved book, an unexpected note from a friend can plunge us into gratitude – that someone knows, someone cares, someone has survived this and t...

February 5, 2019

In counseling grad school, I had to take a course called Bibliotherapy. I was skeptical, high as I was on the electricity in the therapy room I was learning to inhabit – that’s where the action was, where change happens. I was sure of it.

But I dutifully followed the re...

January 9, 2019

What happens when you combine Grief and New Years Resolutions? Usually, not much. The lofty intention – usually short-lived – to do hard things like lose 25 pounds by Valentine’s Day, or go to the gym everyday, just don’t seem relevant in the face of loss. Some of us a...

December 17, 2018

I have heard many different strategies for “getting through” the holidays, from my counseling clients, from friends, from family. There is a narrative that hangs low over the coming days that says “Look out. This will be terrible, devastating, more than you can handle....

December 1, 2018

You never know where you are going to learn something about grieving. When I visited Australia, I spent some time in the Outback, the home of Aboriginal people for thousands of years. In the town of Alice Springs, I witnessed a small skirmish in the longstanding border...

November 19, 2018

Grief contains a tumble of emotional and psychological effects. Ask anyone what they are and they will list off Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s favorite five: denial, depression, anger, attempts to bargain away the unwanted change, and acceptance. There is little argument abou...

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