Blog: Riding the Waves of Grief

On grief, resilience, and healing

November 19, 2018

Grief contains a tumble of emotional and psychological effects. Ask anyone what they are and they will list off Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s favorite five: denial, depression, anger, attempts to bargain away the unwanted change, and acceptance. There is little argument abou...

November 8, 2018

At our first session, Nancy (not her real name of course) told me that at first, right after her dad died, she was speechless.

“I don’t know if there was nothing to say, or if it just would have taken too much energy to try,” she said. “I wasn’t interested in a world wh...

October 29, 2018

What do Eleanor Roosevelt, Barbra Steisand, and I have in common? It’s not celebrity (I’m out) or human rights icon status (no for me and Barbra) or even vocal prowess (not Eleanor and I, unfortunately). It’s that we all lost a father early on – Eleanor at nine (after...

October 18, 2018

Pamela Jane Bell just wanted to join a grief support group. With her husband in hospice care, she was losing more of him day by day. She needed people who would understand and show her the way forward. But she was denied entry to the group. The problem: He wasn’t dead...

October 1, 2018

A loss creates seismic shifts in a life. The structure that supports it falls in on itself, the rhythm of that life is disrupted, a gaping hole opens up underfoot. Things that were easy become difficult, even impossible – eating is no longer appealing, sleep is elusive...

August 7, 2018

A loss pushes you back from the front lines of life, into a smaller place of emotion and turmoil where you try to figure out how to live each new day. The world you came from is suddenly not your own, and  when you occasionally catch sight of it, it seems to be proceed...

July 24, 2018

How many times have we heard that a cancer patient has declared that they wouldn’t change a thing, because living with the diagnosis has unleashed life-changing clarity and wisdom? From afar, this attitude sounds too good to be true. How is it that the turn of mind and...

July 10, 2018

In the days between loss of a loved one and the funeral or memorial there is much to be done. The family assembles photos to trace Grandma’s path through life. Arrangements are made for wake, funeral, luncheon, flowers; donation suggestions are decided. Friends call ot...

June 26, 2018

Grief descends on anyone who is facing loss. We most often think first of a person

who has lost a loved one to death, but grief does not restrict its reach. Before the loved ones are visited by grief, It first has affected the person who is ill with a life-threatening c...

June 19, 2018

Humans in every culture, in every time have found their ways to grieve. On a trip to New Zealand, I discovered one that was brought forward to current times

I think the one lesson I have learned is that there is no substitute for paying attention. ~ Diane Sawyer

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